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The Pie

March 4, 2016
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The battle to get better is with ourselves. The moment we find someone better at their craft than us, we often find ourselves so intimidated that we would throw our hard work out the window. We find ourselves giving up. While that reaction is understandable, we shouldn’t give up just because we think other people are better in their craft than us. When that happens, it’s better to retreat in our corner and perfect our craft, doing what we enjoy doing. After all, there is always a corner available for us in our craft.

Our weapon for insecurity is more practice. We can’t do our best if we compare ourselves to the person right next to us. We might see them as being better but we don’t know what kind of insecurity they’re battling themselves. If we only know what’s going on in their head, it’s unlikely that we’re going to be as insecure. They are fighting that invisible battle too.

We need to worry about our own projects. The good thing about crochet is that I’m either searching for a pattern or creating one myself. Some I like more than others but it’s a matter of personal taste. Similarly, just because we like one creation a particular artist doesn’t mean we’ll like thing they did. What matters is that we’re doing our best with our chosen craft. No matter how good you are, there would always be a place for you in your chosen art form.

We need to remember that there would always be people who are better than us and there would be others that are worse. We shouldn’t worry about how they perform. There is a space for everyone in our chosen medium. The key is to let go of our insecurities and do our best.

What are your own insecurities?


The Double-Edged Sword

March 2, 2016
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Sometimes, it’s easier to learn the craft when we’re with a lot of like-minded people. At the same time, it’s easy to feel insecure. If someone could do what you’re doing ten times better, it would make you feel insecure no matter how self-confident you are. Nevertheless, I find it easier to learn when I’m with people who are good at what they do. It makes me want to strive harder to learn just to keep up. Despite my insecurities, I’m better for it.

For example, when I was in grade school, I wrote some poems that got published in the school newspaper. In high school, I joined the school newspaper. While I’m average at what I did (I didn’t win any contest), I still learned how to do things better because of the education I got from my teacher. I’m a good poet but even then, I had to admit that there are others who are better writer than me.

On the other hand, it causes me to feel insecure at my classmates—they were better writers. Still, I write and improve in my own pace, even if I’m not as good as they are. Eventually, things even out. Some people had stopped writing. Others are now writing for a living. We improve in our own pace. Our growth depends largely on whether we want to write or not and how much practice we’re having. We shouldn’t feel insecure if people are better than us.

People that are better than us in our respective crafts should inspire us rather than hinder us. If we can see the good side of working with other people, we would be able to have new ideas to incorporate in our craft. On the other hand, if we let our insecurities to get the better of us, it would hinder our progress.

When we’re around other people who are good in our chosen craft, it’s easy to feel insecure. However, we need to let go of our insecurities so that we can become the best artist we can be. It’s time to do our best and let others inspire us instead of letting our insecurities get the best of us.


The Battle In Our Head

February 29, 2016
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As an artist, it’s easy to get intimidated by someone whom we perceive is better than us at our respective crafts. This is true whether I’m talking about singing, writing, crocheting, or any other artistic skills I decided to try my hands on. While it’s true that there are people who are going to be better than us in terms of our craft, it’s also true that we would be better than other people.

In Stephen Covey’s Everyday Greatness, Dolly Parton has revealed that she was insecure of Reba McIntire. While people consider Dolly Parton a legend, she was also battling insecurities of her own. Similarly, there would be people that would make us feel small just by standing right next to them. In the case of Dolly Parton, it’s when she was standing right next to Reba. We need to battle that feeling of insecurity so that we could become the best that we could be given our capabilities. We all work at a different pace so we shouldn’t let other people’s progress hamper our own.

The battle is mostly in our head. It’s easy to feel insecure standing right next to someone who’s so good at their craft that we feel like what we would do is useless compared to them. Not only is that mindset useless, it’s also particularly harmful. We need to do our best despite the insecurities we’re feeling. We don’t have to be the best in order to be recognized at what we do. Otherwise, half the famous artists wouldn’t be as famous as they are. What matters is that we keep working on our craft. The battle we should have is whether or not we did better than last time.

It’s not easy trying to learn our craft when we’re battling other people in our head. Often, I find them as a distraction as I try to do my best in my craft. They might be good in other people’s eyes but it shouldn’t prevent us from performing our best. Dolly Parton had to battle her own insecurities. If she let her insecurities, there wouldn’t be a legend that we know. Similarly, you and I shouldn’t let our insecurities get the best of us.


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